Motherhood, that is. Unlike the lyrics of Taylor Swift’s new headlining song, four years ago, as I was staring down at a light pink double line on a pregnancy stick, I can definitely say that my answer to this question was a big “Nope!”
Since my early twenties I spent my days learning the hustle and bustle of the fast-paced New York City jewelry and watch industry. I learned how to hail taxis, ride the subway, dodge buses and bike messengers. I learned my favorite coffee and cocktail spots and, oh yeah, I spent several years working my way up the proverbial ladder, traveling all over the country, working for a jewelry designer who watched The Devil Wears Prada one dozen times too many and made Miranda Priestly look like one of the Care Bears!
Up until the first night in the hospital, I had never changed a diaper, held a newborn or given a bottle and I can shamefully say that my husband and I were those people who rolled their eyes at each other when a family with children sat down next to us at a restaurant after 8pm. But oh, how those cocktail tables have turned! Now if someone had a problem with my children at a restaurant my husband and I would most likely pounce on them like a pack of hungry wolves.
For anyone who finds themselves in a situation similar to mine, where becoming a mom seems like the scariest thing imaginable — seriously, relax! It’s so cliché to say this, but the moment you become a mom, those natural instincts really do just come to you. You have this precious little being whom you love so much and would do anything for… and somehow you just know that it’s going to be ok. That said, every day is different and you will need to drastically adjust your lifestyle, make a ton of changes, compromises and sacrifices. For me, it was hard not being able to live by my planner and schedule… your schedule basically goes out the window along with the massive poop diaper that needs to be changed just after you get your child all bundled up to leave the house – believe me – this will happen like clockwork! You just have to learn to expect the unexpected, all the time, and realize that shit happens, sometimes literally! In my opinion, this was one of my biggest hurdles, but I learned to deal. Mainly I try to plan ahead as much as possible and be prepared for just about anything. Give yourself fifteen extra minutes every time you plan to go out, set a clock ahead if you need to. If you think you might need that extra blanket, or jacket or whatever it is that’s on your mind, just bring it – 9 times out of 10 you will be glad you did!
This is just a little about me and the beginning of my mommy-hood journey. Now I have a three year old and an 18 month old. Every single day is an adventure with new experiences, new emotions, new unexpectantancies, new drama, new love, new laughter, new smiles, new words, new games, and new lessons – for all of us. To close with another Taylor Swift line, “Baby, Let the games begin…”